After reading Carolyn Hax all these years, I've become more aware of personal boundaries, how numerous they are and why it's important to respect other folks'. And then, over a year ago, I lose a bunch of weight. The questions began to be asked--questions about the weight of my body.
My first thought:
"No one would be asking these questions if I'd gained weight."
I tried to deflect curious folks I don't know as well and soon-- I began to get irritated when asked.
Do I have all this boundary stuff wrong?
Looking back, I wish I had been less concerned with the boundaries being crossed and realized those asking the questions thought we were close enough to broach the subject of my weight. AND I wish I'd understood it all (okay, most) came from concern and love.
Perhaps this is a lesson in: One Size Does Not Fit All?